How To Heal From A Break Up

A heartbreak happens when the person you trusted and loved has abandoned you. They left you with a massive fresh wound that you weren’t prepared for. The pain of this wound can be unbearable and we may think we aren’t strong enough to survive it.

It seems like the only time we truly find solace is during sleep. However, even then, we may experience dreams involving our exes, and waking up feels like re-entering our “worst nightmare.”

If you’re grappling with rejection from a crush, ghosting from a situationship, infidelity from a significant other, or the pain of a breakup, and you’re engulfed in a whirlwind of emotions, yearning for a way out, I understand how overwhelming it can be.

But here’s the truth, even though it may not be what you want to hear right now: to heal and move forward, you must allow yourself to fully experience this pain. It’s a necessary part of the process, one that holds valuable lessons and insights crucial for your growth and eventual healing.

Go Through It To Grow Through It

In the initial stages of heartbreak, the pain can feel suffocating, as if your heart is being ripped from your chest. It’s tempting to push these emotions aside, to pretend they don’t exist, but doing so only prolongs the healing process.

Instead, give yourself permission to feel. Find a safe space—a quiet room, a secluded area, or the solitude of your car—and let your emotions flow freely. Cry, scream, or simply take deep breaths. Journaling can also be incredibly cathartic, providing an outlet for your thoughts and feelings.

Importantly, be kind to yourself throughout this process. Show yourself the same compassion you would offer to a dear friend in pain. You deserve it.

Unlearning the Belief: “I need them”

How we handle a heartbreak can determine how co-dependent we were on another person to fulfill our needs. Now that the person is no longer there we think that we need them. That is never the case.

Yes, they may have provided companionship, laughter, or physical affection, but our needs and the ex are distinct from one another. Our exes can only be the ones who meet our needs, or not. They are not the needs itself.

By recognizing this differentiation, we reclaim the power that we had unknowingly relinquished.

In the midst of heartbreak, prioritize your own well-being. Allow yourself to grieve, but also remember to nurture your mind and body. Spend time with loved ones, explore new interests, and relish in the simple joys of life.

Realizing Our Inner Worth

Heartbreak can plunge us into a state of vulnerability and self-doubt. Yet, it’s during these dark moments that we have the opportunity to cultivate a deeper sense of self-trust and self-love.

It’s said that in teaching others about unconditional love, we learn the importance of loving ourselves. Even if the other person walked away, we possess the resilience to rebuild ourselves from the ground up.

Remember, their rejection is not a reflection of your worth. You are deserving of love and respect, regardless of whether they chose to see it or not.

More Good Things Are On The Way!

In the depths of heartbreak, it’s easy to believe that this was our one shot at love. But the truth is far more hopeful—we are capable of experiencing love again, and perhaps even more deeply than before.

Shift your mindset from scarcity to abundance, acknowledging that love exists in many forms and that new opportunities for happiness await you.

Conclusion

Hang in there. Healing from heartbreak is a journey—one that requires patience, self-compassion, and resilience. By prioritizing self-care and embracing the lessons this experience offers, you’ll emerge stronger and more resilient than ever before, ready to welcome new love into your life.

If you’re seeking additional guidance on self-care practices, explore my previous article, “5 Self-Care Tips for Beginners.”

Remember, you’re not alone on this journey. With time and tender care, you’ll find your way back to a place of wholeness and joy.

Love,

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